Dear Abby: My coworker has been filling the office drinking fountain with lead-filled water

DEAR ABBY: The level I activity connected has a cluster of offices surrounding a cardinal room area. Fifteen of america stock nan appliances, including a basking h2o reservoir pinch a tap. The building is aged and has lead pipes, truthful a work brings successful ample integrative bottles for a h2o cooler. Usually, whoever arrives first successful nan greeting fills nan vessel connected nan h2o heater from nan cooler, and we each usage it to make basking drinks during nan day. 

I conscionable recovered retired that a caller worker has been filling nan vessel from nan contaminated tap! When I asked her astir it, she said that nan microplastics successful nan h2o jugs were much vulnerable than nan lead successful nan pipes. She’s very committed to this thought and is not going to budge. I don’t deliberation this is right. I will power my ain h2o from now on, but really should I pass nan others successful nan office? The root of our beverage h2o seems for illustration a silly point to commencement an agency tiff over, but I besides deliberation group request to cognize their h2o is unsafe. — NOT DRINKING IN NEW YORK

DEAR NOT DRINKING: I work together nan labor successful your agency should cognize astir this. At slightest they will beryllium connected announcement astir which “poison” they are consuming. Report this to HR aliases your employer, truthful nan announcement tin travel from connected precocious and you tin enactment retired of nan statement of fire.

Dear Abby advises an agency worker connected really to grip different worker filling nan h2o heater pinch contaminated tap. Pixel-Shot – stock.adobe.com

DEAR ABBY: I person spent 40 years serving nan nationalist and my country, putting different group first and emotion blameworthy if I didn’t. However, I americium becoming resentful of nan demands for my time. 

I’m retired, and my hubby still works. We person ever divided nan expenses 50-50, moreover though I make little than 40% of his income. Once I retired, my stock of nan family chores and errands accrued from 75% to 90%. I wanted to make life easier for my husband, but now he expects maine to tally individual errands for him, too. All nan deterioration and tear and state usage is borne by my car, which is considerably older than his. 

I person a friend and stepping partner who has been having different issues she needs thief with. She has ever talked astir nan adjacent friends she has known for decades and sees regularly. They each unrecorded astir 20 minutes distant and are retired, successful bully wellness and capable to drive. I offered her my thief successful nan past, but now she and her friends deliberation I should beryllium her go-to personification since I unrecorded person to her than they do. 

I person my ain schedule and regular now. I for illustration having immoderate days free to do what I consciousness for illustration and not person to fulfill demands from others. How do I fto group cognize my clip is valuable and discourage them from expecting maine to thief them? — TOO NICE AND HELPFUL

DEAR TOO NICE: It is not a crime to show personification you don’t person clip to do what they want you to do. It’s clip to motion up for immoderate assertiveness training truthful you tin study really to opportunity no. (No, I’m not kidding.) If you do arsenic I suggest, it mightiness moreover amended your marriage. Your expert aliases wellness security institution tin mention you to personification qualified.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.