Divorced Virgin, 42, Wants Future Partner to 'Manhandle Me' After Failed Marriage in TLC's “Virgins”: 'I Need to Get Tied Up'

A divided virgin is getting candid astir her intersexual fantasies connected nan caller TLC series, Virgins.

On nan June 9 premiere of nan bid — which follows 4 virgins successful their 30s to 40s arsenic they spell connected a travel of love, intimacy and aforesaid find successful hopes of getting deflowered — Rhasha, 42, pulled backmost nan curtain connected her chamber desires.

“Yes, you heard that right, 42 and Big Purr ne'er seen immoderate action and we sewage to hole that,” she admitted, earlier adding successful a confessional, “I mention to my backstage portion arsenic Big Purr. I conscionable don't consciousness comfortable saying nan P word.”

“I americium wanting to suffer my virginity to personification typical and I'm trying to find that person,” she added. “I americium benignant of awkward because I don't cognize what I americium doing, but I do not want to beryllium successful my 80s and not having been cracked open.”

To execute her desires, Rhasha decided it was clip to effort activity therapy. Dr. Tyrenia Cross, a activity therapist, asked her “deepest fantasies” and she revealed precisely what she wanted.

“I americium successful a chamber pinch achromatic sheets, and it's like, I'm tied pinch my hands down my back,” she shared during nan exercise. “I person a blindfold connected it."

She past admitted that she is “a submissive person” and wants a “dominant” partner who will “manhandle me.” 

“I request to get tied up, I request to get spanked. It's steamy, it's stank. Sorry mom,” she added pinch a laugh.

When asked wherever her fantasies travel from, she shared, “I've watched a batch of porn and erstwhile I research myself, I ideate those things happening.”

Rhasha referred to herself arsenic “a precocious bloomer.” She added, “I wasn't attracted to guys aliases seen them sexually ‘till I was successful my mid 20s. I deliberation it was conscionable being overweight and not having assurance successful myself.”

During therapy, Rhasha admitted she was joined before, but added nan acquisition was a “debacle.” 

“Yes, I was joined antecedently for 10 months,” she told cameras. “I americium a divided virgin and that is nan truth.” 

She past elaborate her narration pinch ex-husband and really nan narration fell apart.

“He was an world student from South Korea, but he was surviving successful Minnesota astatine nan time. We met connected a making love app online and we matched,” she recalled. “We were successful touch for astir 4 to 5 years, conscionable texting and messaging, but he was truthful saccharine and made maine laugh. So erstwhile he told maine that he didn't want to spell backmost to his location country, I didn't want him to either. So I wanted to thief him because I thought I was successful emotion pinch him and I judge that possibly he could emotion maine too.”

She added that she quickly learned that her ex-husband had “different motives” arsenic they slept separately and he “wasn't really interested” successful her, but alternatively much focused connected “looking for a greenish card.”

“That matrimony was not ever consummated ever…[I] showed a small something,” Rhasha said arsenic she collapsed down successful tears. “He conscionable looked astatine maine pinch truthful overmuch disgust and I was conscionable like, possibly I'm conscionable fat and disfigured and that conscionable made maine consciousness moreover much bad.” 

She now hopes to find personification who she feels “safe with, to unleash nan w---- successful me. That’s what I want to find.”

Elsewhere successful nan episode, Sonali, 37, was navigating her ain desires aft increasing up successful “a very strict, accepted household.” Due to her upbringing, she noted, “I person ne'er watched porn aliases erotica. I've ne'er moreover tried to masturbate. I wouldn't moreover cognize wherever to begin. I've ne'er had an orgasm — astatine slightest I don’t deliberation so.”

Sonali revealed that location was much than 1 logic why she had remained a virgin, however. She told cameras, “I'm still a virgin astatine 37. Not conscionable because I haven't met nan correct feline yet, but besides because I do judge there's besides a beingness barrier. To this day, I person not inserted thing successful my vagina.”

“There really feels for illustration there's thing blocking nan opening to my vagina,” she later added, earlier sharing that she had an assignment pinch a pelvic level therapist.

During nan assignment pinch pelvic level therapist Dr. Heather Jeffcoat, Sonali revealed that she has ne'er tried to insert a tampon, ne'er attempted intercourse and was incapable to person a pap smear completed owed to pain.

After experiencing discomfort during nan beingness exam, Sonali admitted, “If fingers are this intense, I can't ideate what symptom I would acquisition pinch a man.”

She later added, “I'm downright acrophobic and fearful that Doctor Heather is going to opportunity to maine I person immoderate benignant of beingness ailment that will forestall maine from having intersexual intercourse.” Her fears only roseate erstwhile nan expert showed her a aesculapian dilator arsenic nan section concluded.

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Virgins airs Mondays astatine 9 p.m. ET/PT connected TLC.