Friend Unexpectedly Joins Woman's Solo Trip, and Now She's Not Sure What to Do

A female is reaching retired to nan Reddit organization for support aft a solo travel she meticulously planned took an unexpected move pinch a friend. 

For nan past six months, nan 20-year-old poster has been organizing a two-month escapade done Asia, booking flights and accommodations good successful advance.

“I ever saw this arsenic my travel - thing I was doing alone, but unfastened to overlapping pinch friends present aliases there,” she explains successful her post. Her travel was meant to beryllium a individual experience, though she didn’t mind nan thought of crossing paths pinch others on nan way.

The business grew analyzable erstwhile a 30-year-old antheral friend expressed liking successful walking arsenic well. She recalls, “In person, I said that if he was free, possibly we could overlap,” but thing was group successful stone, she adds.

Later, erstwhile he asked for her itinerary, she shared it, but made nary effort to scheme nan travel pinch him aliases inquire for his input. “I’d already made astir of nan arrangements connected my own,” she says, emphasizing that her plans were already finalized.

Less than a week earlier her travel was group to begin, her friend revealed that he had booked flights to travel her route. “He’d been sick for a while, truthful I wasn’t moreover judge he was still going,” she writes, amazed by his last-minute confirmation.

When she clarified that she still intended to recreation solo and not arsenic a pair, her friend became upset. He referenced an aged connection successful which she said, “this is arsenic overmuch your travel arsenic mine,” utilizing it arsenic grounds that she misled him.

The poster clarified that she only made that remark to beryllium benignant erstwhile he was apologizing for being sick and slow to corroborate his plans. “We ne'er really planned thing together aliases had a speech astir walking arsenic a pair. He conscionable adopted my itinerary,” she shares.

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Her friend expressed disappointment, saying he wouldn’t person booked nan aforesaid way if he’d known they weren’t walking together. The poster admits she feels bad for his disappointment and apologized for not being much definitive earlier.

Still, she questions whether she should beryllium blamed for assumptions he ne'er communicated. “He didn’t inquire questions, didn’t thief plan, and could’ve conscionable picked 1 state to overlap successful alternatively of mimicking my afloat two-month trip,” she writes.

Commenters are telling her to look retired for herself.

"This is creepy arsenic heck," says one. "If you can, alteration your itinerary and artifact him. No 30 twelvemonth aged man successful their correct mind books a travel pinch a 20 twelvemonth aged girl. Heck I’m a 30 twelvemonth aged woman and I would consciousness really weird astir booking a travel pinch a 20 twelvemonth aged woman unless she had very specifically invited maine to subordinate her. Even being friends pinch personification your property would consciousness weird to maine unless it was a family personnel aliases for illustration nan small sister of my champion friend. A 30 twelvemonth aged man being bully capable friends pinch a 20 twelvemonth aged woman to “overlap” trips is simply a immense reddish flag."

Adds another, "The audacity of him to effort and subordinate your travel without ever really asking you and past to blasted you erstwhile you explain that this was your travel and you were doing it solo is...I can't even. You mightiness want to rethink your relationship pinch this guy. I guarantee his intentions were not pure."