Guest Says Couple Requested Cocktail Attire at Their Rehearsal Dinner — Then Served Pizza and Beer Outside

A bridesmaid is criticizing a couple's contradictory wedding expectations.

In a post connected Reddit's r/weddingshaming forum, a bridesmaid shared her caller acquisition astatine a couple's rehearsal dinner, successful which nan dress codification was listed arsenic cocktail attire. However, nan dress codification didn't fresh nan remainder of nan arena — dinner was highly casual, she wrote.

Held astatine a brewery, nan rehearsal meal was successful an "outdoor seating area of a brewery pinch nary heating," nan impermanent wrote. The existent meal was "a fewer boxes of pizza" and a portion summons for either a brew aliases a non-alcoholic drink.

The impermanent clarified that she had nary problem pinch nan laid-back vibe, but alternatively that nan wedding mates had asked for cocktail attire for nan casual event.

"I froze my a-- disconnected successful very, very windy 50-degree upwind and ate pizza disconnected a cafeteria bench," she added.

The bridesmaid expected a akin taxable for nan wedding, held nan adjacent day. She had to get 2 dresses — a taste dress for nan three-hour ceremony, past different gown for nan reception successful nan evening — and a master photographer had been booked, she wrote. But nan black-tie optional wedding would person nary vino work astatine its buffet dinner, and would only connection an unfastened barroom astatine cocktail hour.

She admitted she wasn't excited to walk her time astatine this wedding.

"I wholly get redeeming money and having a much casual event, but I consciousness for illustration nan dress codification should bespeak that," nan bridesmaid wrote.

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Users successful nan comments agreed that "cocktail attire" should beryllium suggestive of different aspects of nan wedding, for illustration nan nutrient and venue. Some recalled rehearsal dinners they'd attended that besides served pizza and brew — but besides included a "casual" dress code.

"A friend of excavation had her rehearsal meal astatine a barroom arcade! We each wore jeans and T-shirts and had fun!" 1 wrote. "But she fto america cognize that. I didn't person to deterioration a cocktail dress!"

"Man, if you specify nan dress code, you person astatine slightest to springiness nan impermanent a fork," different wrote.