Teen Feels Forced to Choose Between Attending Her Own Graduation and Her Dying Aunt. She's Asking Reddit What She Should Do

A teen is emotion arsenic though she is being forced to take betwixt attending her own graduation and her dying aunt — and she’s asking nan net for advice.

The 17-year-old elaborate her communicative connected nan celebrated Reddit forum “Am I nan A------,” a spot wherever Reddit users tin spell to activity input astir interpersonal dilemmas. In her post, nan teen explained that her precocious schoolhouse graduation is coming up, and she will beryllium “the first” successful her family to graduate.

“I consciousness very accomplished,” she admitted.

The Redditor went connected to explicate that her aged aunt, who lives successful her location and who is fundamentally her “second mother” is currently dying, and it’s unclear really overmuch clip she has left. The teen said that because of nan existent situation, she has mostly refused to do thing that takes her distant from location and family.

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However, she had been readying connected attending her precocious schoolhouse graduation and nan accompanying festivities, which would return her distant from location from “about 7 a.m. to 9 p.m.”

“This would beryllium nan longest I person been extracurricular of my location and not pinch my aunt successful complete 3 months,” she explained.

The problem? 

The OP (original poster) said that erstwhile she informed her aunt’s 45-year-old girl — her relative — of her plan, she was met pinch “anger, disappointment and arguing.” She recalled her relative saying it was “selfish” to beryllium “out laughing and smiling” pinch friends while a family personnel was “actively dying.”  

“When my aunt was capable to speak, she said that I should look my absolute champion astatine graduation, and that nary matter what I [should] clasp my caput precocious and locomotion nan shape pinch pride, nary matter wherever my aunt would beryllium that day,” nan teen said. 

The OP said that her relative is now refusing to speak to her — sloppy of knowing her mother’s wishes — and told her, “It’s nan worst determination I could make fixed nan circumstances.”

“AITA [am I nan a------]?” nan Redditor asked astatine nan extremity of her post.

The teen’s chap Redditors were speedy to guarantee her that she should not consciousness blameworthy for wanting to observe specified an important milestone successful her life.

“You are NTA [not nan a------]. Your aunt has fixed you her blessing. She is immensely proud of you! Go to your graduation and locomotion proudly!” said 1 personification earlier adding, “Your relative is struggling pinch her ain grief. And it is her problem, not yours.”

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“Go. Your aunt virtually gave you permission. She knows what this intends to you. Honor her wishes by looking amazing, holding your caput high, and telling her each astir it, moreover if it's successful spirit. And cognize that her bosom will beryllium location pinch you,” said personification else.

Another personification attempted to thief nan OP by framing nan business successful a different light.

“In my opinion, you are not choosing your graduation complete your aunt. You are honoring your aunt by going to graduation. From what you person written, I americium assured that she would want you to beryllium there,” they said.