Woman Gives Boyfriend of 7 Years a Proposal Ultimatum, But His Response Makes Her Question Everything

A 23-year-old female told her longtime partner she was tired of waiting for a ring, only for him to mobility their full relationship.

On Reddit, nan female shares that she and her 25-year-old fellow person been together for 7 years, 5 of which they person lived together.

Last year, she told him that if they didn't get joined soon, she'd "leave," arsenic she didn't want to beryllium a "forever" girlfriend. She felt her petition was reasonable, arsenic they agreed that "getting joined was thing we some wanted" erstwhile they first started dating.

"I consciousness for illustration waiting complete 7 years to cognize if you wanna wed personification aliases not is excessively much," she writes, noting that they besides "have 2 kids together."

"I told him if he ne'er intended to wed me, why make a full life pinch me," she adds.

A fewer months later, she brought it up again, but her fellow told her that "he doesn't cognize if he wants to wed maine now."

"idk what to do aliases think. I consciousness truthful betrayed, wounded and sad because if he doesn't wanna wed maine why not conscionable ends things and not person maine present pinch mendacious hope," she writes.

However, now she worries that her ultimatum will unit him to propose erstwhile it's intelligibly not thing he wants.

"I besides don't want him to wed maine conscionable because I'd opportunity I'll time off if we don't," she adds. "I wanna talk to him astir it but he shuts maine retired and fundamentally says I'm incorrect for reasoning that..."

In nan comments, nan poster added much context, noting that she is simply a stay-at-home mom and doesn't person a job, a car aliases her license, which makes it difficult for her to leave.

Still, group successful nan comments told nan female to make bully connected her connection and leave, noting that if he wanted to wed her, he would have.

"Don't get married, you person already made bad decisions by surviving together and having 2 kids astatine nan property of 23, get a job, your ain money, a license, and a car. You're a sitting duck pinch nary measurement to support yourself and your children," 1 personification commented. "This feline isn't going to wed you. You request to go independent, aliases you're going to get stuck successful a rhythm of poorness pinch 2 kids successful tow."

Another personification put it bluntly, "Forced marriages don't extremity well." 

In consequence to nan advice, nan poster noted that she will effort talking to her partner 1 much clip earlier reaching retired to her family to spot if they tin thief her.

While she admits it will "be difficult fundamentally starting from zero again," she "will do it for my kids truthful they tin person a happy mom and life."