Woman’s Friends Say She Ruined Dinner and Was ‘Rude’ to 'Flirty' Waiter. She Says He Gave Her the ‘Ick’

A joined female is near wondering if she was rude to a “flirty” antheral waiter during a caller girls' nighttime out. 

AKA_Ruth posted to Reddit connected Monday, June 23, to inquire others successful nan online organization to measurement successful connected whether aliases not she was nan a--hole for not being playful pinch a edifice worker who made her consciousness uncomfortable. 

“I (27F) went retired connected a girl's meal pinch my champion friends (26F & 29F)," nan Reddit personification began. "For context, I'm nan only 1 married, they are not successful immoderate committed relationships. Yesterday we went to person meal astatine a sports bar/family edifice where, from nan infinitesimal we arrived nan waiter (M/early-mid twenties?) started complimenting us."

The Reddit personification said nan waiter “kept saying flirty/funny things,” but she ignored him because he “gave maine specified an ick.”

However, his comments kept her azygous friends “giggling” for a while, but AKA_Ruth said she yet “did a sarcastic laugh.” After that, he stopped. 

In an update, ​​AKA_Ruth gave immoderate examples of what she claimed nan waiter said.

“When he first sat america he was for illustration ‘I didn't cognize models were coming today’ and erstwhile refilling our drinks he said ‘I mightiness person put a small special something connected nan drinks to get this statement started,’ ” nan Reddit personification wrote.

In summation to referring to their group arsenic “cuties,” ​​AKA_Ruth said while 1 of her friends was “teary eyed” while discussing a caller break-up astatine dinner, nan waiter said, "Don't outcry for me, I'll beryllium correct back," to which her friend did not laugh.

“My friends later told maine I was rude to him and that he was conscionable doing his occupation but omg it was ruining my afternoon. But now I'm wondering if I conscionable should've kept quiet. AITA?” AKA_Rut asked.

Her examples of his alleged behaviour were shared successful an update aft commenters mentioned “‘flirty’ is highly subjective.”

“NTA. I fishy his head would beryllium willing to cognize that he’s making roofie jokes to female customers erstwhile he serves them drinks,” 1 personification shared aft her update. 

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Another added, “I would astir apt person said Y t a, until you sewage to nan portion wherever he said ‘I mightiness person put a small typical thing connected nan drinks to get this statement started.’ This is nary joking matter. At that constituent I would not ingest thing he delivered, and talked to a manager.”

Some were divided, saying AKA_Ruth still did not stock capable information, arsenic “something special” could person meant alcohol. 

“Please alternatively do immoderate backstage reflection connected why you judge that’s better,” a personification said successful consequence to that theory.

“I don’t judge this remark by OP. I deliberation she saw each of nan YTA responses and decided she needed thing insane to move nan tides her way,” different said of AKA_Ruth’s update containing things nan waiter allegedly said.