Dear Abby: How do I tell my 40-year-old son he needs to get a job and move out?

DEAR ABBY: My boy has problem telling nan truth. He was getting up late, dressing for work, leaving and coming backmost early. When my hubby and I asked him astir having a job, he said he had one. When we asked him to show america his paycheck, he fumbled astir connected his phone, past he confessed that he had nary job. He said he has been astatine nan room looking for work.

This isn’t nan first clip my boy has lied to us. He agreed to counseling. He is bully to america and he is kind, but he lies. He is successful his 40s now. Help! How do we unrecorded pinch a liar? — CAN’T BELIEVE HIM IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CAN’T BELIEVE: Assuming that your boy isn’t penniless, wherever has he been getting money? If it is from you and your husband, it’s clip to stop. That whitethorn springiness him an inducement to look harder for employment. While you are astatine it, springiness him a day aft which he must person recovered different lodging, and instrumentality to it. A counsellor whitethorn beryllium capable to thief your boy pinch his problem telling nan truth, but it is agelong past clip that you stopped surviving pinch it.

DEAR ABBY: I americium 29 and connected nan autism spectrum, and I unrecorded pinch my parents. I activity a full-time occupation I bask and thief my folks retired financially wherever I can, but my life feels for illustration it is astatine a dormant end.

I person wanted to spell backmost to college, but I often wonderment if it’s moreover worthy it anymore. On apical of that, my 2 champion friends abandoned me, and I can’t shingle disconnected my loneliness. I want to beryllium successful and meet caller people, but I person nary thought what to do aliases wherever to spell from here. Is location still hope? — LOST CAUSE IN GEORGIA

DEAR LOST CAUSE: You are only 29! If you deliberation that furthering your acquisition will heighten your profession opportunities, avail yourself of nan opportunity. You are azygous and don’t person children to support, truthful this is nan clip to spell for it.

As to your loneliness, you are socially isolated correct now. Getting retired and into activities that liking you will heighten your chances of gathering like-minded people. You whitethorn beryllium depressed, but you are NOT a mislaid cause. Of people location is still hope!

DEAR ABBY: I person lousy luck pinch women. I get progressive pinch women who are somewhat broken. Then I hole them and deliberation we are increasing a relationship, only for them to find nan adjacent emotion of their lives and push maine into nan friend zone. It is leaving maine disappointed and emotionally exhausted. I’m a bully person, tin of giving and accepting love, but it appears I’m only a stopgap. It’s making maine want to conscionable beryllium alone. Advice? — MR. FIX-IT IN ILLINOIS

DEAR MR. FIX-IT: There is thing incorrect pinch being alone. In fact, it tin beryllium healthy. You request to break a destructive shape that you whitethorn person established. It is important that you get complete nan impulse to rescue women who person been unlucky successful emotion and whose self-esteem is weak. Concentrate alternatively connected uncovering personification who feels bully astir herself without your help, and you whitethorn person amended luck.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.