Dear Abby: I asked my friend for free accommodations for her son’s wedding — now she ghosted me

DEAR ABBY: My champion friend “Carla” and I haven’t spoken for respective years, which breaks my heart. Her boy was getting married. The dress was evening cocktail attire. The venue was an hr and a half from wherever I live. I don’t drive. At nan time, I was having financial difficulties and was worried astir nan attire and proscription to nan venue. 

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I advised Carla that I had nary measurement to get to nan wedding and to Uber to nan venue would costs good complete $200. I was hoping I could thrust pinch her. The family had rooms astatine nan edifice wherever nan wedding was being held. I was hoping she’d connection that I could spell pinch her and enactment nan nighttime pinch her astatine nan hotel. She didn’t offer, truthful I wasn’t capable to attend. 

Carla didn’t return my calls and hasn’t spoken to maine since. We were adjacent friends for 25 years. She has since moved retired of state. I miss her terribly. After each this time, would it beryllium incorrect to interaction her again, aliases should I conscionable fto it go? I person been upset astir nan business for years. I’d emotion your opinion. — MISSING MY FRIEND IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR MISSING: Weddings tin beryllium analyzable affairs, and it’s apt that Carla was stressed and distracted because of nan number of guests and each nan activities related to nan wedding astatine nan hotel. To person expected her to supply you pinch proscription and stock her room pinch you whitethorn person been regarded arsenic presumptuous. 

If you would for illustration to perceive her broadside of this and summation immoderate closure, by each means, scope out. But because you are now truthful geographically distant, do not expect to resurrect nan narration you had pinch her.

DEAR ABBY: I person been joined for 44 years, and we person a joined boy and 1 grandson. My hubby and I moved person to our boy and daughter-in-law 5 years ago. Once aliases doubly a year, my hubby reminds maine that I “ruined his life” by forcing him to move person to our grandson. On apical of that, he dislikes our son’s mother-in-law, thing he has made clear to me. He doesn’t want to be vacation dinners if nan mother-in-law is there. (Fortunately, our daughter-in-law is not alert that he dislikes her mother.) 

I’m tired of worrying astir whether he’ll be our grandson’s sports activities aliases events if nan different grandma is there. At this point, I’m really considering divorcement truthful I won’t beryllium truthful miserable. Any proposal would beryllium appreciated. — FATIGUED IN FLORIDA

DEAR FATIGUED: Unless you hogtied your husband, he must person agreed to move person to your boy and his family. Is nan only logic he’s miserable this dislike of his DIL’s mother, aliases is it that he is separated from his friends? If it’s nan former, spell without your hubby to your grandson’s events and fto him enactment home. If it’s much than that, possibly it mightiness beryllium amended for him to return to nan organization successful which he was much comfortable.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.