Dear Abby: I have a crush on a Catholic priest — should I confess it to him?

DEAR ABBY: A fewer years ago, I became acquainted pinch a Catholic leader aft he hired maine to springiness him speech lessons. (He was visiting from different country; English is not his first language.) We deed it disconnected and recovered we had a batch successful common. After nan lessons ended, we stayed successful touch. 

Not agelong aft that, he returned to his location country. Since then, we person emailed and texted regularly, and video-chatted complete nan holidays. I emotion my relationship pinch him, and he seems to consciousness nan aforesaid way. 

To beryllium honest, though, I person a spot of a crush connected him. I was hoping it would fade, but it hasn’t. I consciousness somewhat blameworthy astir it and wonderment if I americium being dishonest by not telling him. Should I opportunity thing and consequence having nan relationship (which I really enjoy) end? Or is it OK to support these kinds of secrets? — CRUSHING ON THE COAST

DEAR CRUSHING: As agelong arsenic your “bit of a crush” doesn’t person a antagonistic effect connected nan remainder of your life, I spot nary logic to load nan leader pinch this secret. However, if it causes a disruption successful nan relationships you person (i.e., pinch a hubby aliases boyfriend), past speak up and beryllium prepared for nan narration to slow down, if not end.

DEAR ABBY: I americium precocious divided aft a 37-year marriage. My boyfriend, “Grant,” has been divided for a agelong time. He is simply a beautiful man — honest, intelligent, healthy, helpful, neat and a awesome communicator. Our beingness narration is wonderful, too.

My problem? Grant has 2 mini dogs that slumber successful furniture pinch him. They person since they were puppies. They are 11 and 13 years aged now. I person a ample canine that sleeps successful his furniture connected nan level and is not allowed connected immoderate furniture. He doesn’t shed. The dogs each get on fine. 

I slept successful Grant’s furniture erstwhile once his dogs were astatine nan kennel and was grossed retired by nan canine hairsbreadth connected nan sheets, comforter, etc., moreover aft nan sheets had been washed. Having dogs successful nan furniture would disrupt my sleep, truthful if I walk nan night, I slumber successful Grant’s impermanent room. (He doesn’t deliberation it’s adjacent to disrupt his “kids'” sleeping arrangements aft each these years.) I’d overmuch alternatively autumn dormant and aftermath up adjacent to him, but this happens only connected vacations distant from home. 

I’m tired of sleeping isolated but don’t consciousness for illustration giving immoderate ultimatums. Is he correct to not want to disrupt nan dogs’ sleeping habits to accommodate maine erstwhile aliases doubly a week? — SLEEPING SOLO IN OREGON

DEAR SLEEPING SOLO: I deliberation your fellow is right. Because Grant has habituated his dogs to sleeping successful his furniture (not to mention that nan furniture is filthy), I don’t deliberation it would beryllium applicable to disrupt them astatine this shape of their lives. On nan nights you’re astatine his place, it mightiness make much consciousness for Grant to walk nan nighttime successful nan impermanent room pinch you until his sleeping buddies transverse nan rainbow bridge. 

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.