Dear Abby: My 2-year-old disrupted her grandmother’s funeral service and my family is furious

DEAR ABBY: My husband’s stepmother passed precocious aft a agelong illness, and her children specifically wanted our family, including our 2-year-old, to beryllium astatine her service. When we arrived astatine nan church, I tried to beryllium successful nan backmost pew truthful I could return her retired erstwhile she was antsy, but they put america successful beforehand pinch nan remainder of nan family.

Predictably, we lasted location for only astir 30 minutes earlier my girl started being disruptive. I took her retired to nan vestibule wherever she had a tantrum, truthful I past took her down into nan basement playroom.

Immediately aft nan funeral, my in-laws came aft maine and berated maine for “ruining” nan video they had professionally produced of nan service. They said that not only tin you spot america exiting nan sanctuary, but you tin perceive my girl making sound outside, which messed up nan signaling for everyone.

There are galore parts of this I don’t understand, for illustration why location is simply a recording, but I’m not judge what to do next. I person apologized for not insisting we beryllium successful nan back. Other than not attending astatine all, I deliberation I did what I could to trim our impact. If it matters, my older kids sat nicely done nan full 90-minute service. Advice? — DISRUPTER IN IDAHO

DEAR DISRUPTER: It is not different for location to beryllium sound and video signaling astatine funerals. Some are streamed connected nan net for folks who can’t beryllium location successful person.

The problem pinch 20/20 hindsight is that it isn’t foresight. Yes, you should person spoken up and reminded your in-laws astir really short a 2-year-old’s attraction span is, and yes, they should person taken that into information earlier berating you. Even so, erstwhile viewed from a different perspective, nan sound of a young kid astatine that sad time, though distracting, whitethorn person been a reminder that life renews itself moreover successful nan beingness of death.

DEAR ABBY: I’m 42 and successful nan midst of a separation. My hubby of 19 years decided he didn’t want to beryllium joined anymore. We person 3 children, 1 of whom is disabled. My hubby made america waste nan location we lived in, and since then, I person purchased a caller one.

This Dear Abby scholar is successful nan mediate of a separation pinch her husband. silverkblack – stock.adobe.com

I’m having a very difficult clip moving on. Since our separation, he perpetually goes connected trips, and I’m emotion highly abandoned. I don’t cognize really I’m expected to move on. I’m truthful tired each nan time. Please help. — FROZEN IN COLORADO

DEAR FROZEN: You person my sympathy. Your hubby is flying astir free arsenic a bird, and you person been near pinch a immense responsibility. Your tiredness is apt a denotation of depression. Fortunately, location is thief for it successful nan shape of talk therapy arsenic good arsenic medication. Please talk this pinch your doctor. Once you are emotion much for illustration yourself, talk this full script pinch an lawyer who specializes successful family rule and tin guideline you further. You are still a young woman, and your life is not over.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.