Dear Abby: My boyfriend cooks for our dogs — but won’t for me — do I leave?

DEAR ABBY: I’ve been pinch my fellow for 9 awesome years. He’s loving, loyal, funny and 1 of nan champion cooks I’ve ever known. We stock our location pinch 2 mini and terribly spoiled Yorkies who are nan halfway of his world. So overmuch so, successful fact, that he cooks gourmet meals — for them. I’m not exaggerating.

Last week, nan dogs had Wagyu steak pinch a drizzle of bony broth reduction. I dined connected a turkey sandwich from nan fridge that had expired 2 days earlier and a container of murphy chips. It’s not that I don’t emotion nan dogs. I do. They’re family. But I’m starting to consciousness for illustration nan roommate who gets nan leftovers while nan VIPs dine connected premier cuts. He treats maine good successful each different way. But Abby, is it excessively overmuch to inquire for adjacent steak authorities successful my ain home? — SECOND TO THE YORKIES

DEAR SECOND: How do you cognize your fellow is simply a bully navigator if he only cooks for nan Yorkies? Is it because they wag their tails arsenic they wolf down their gourmet dinner? What does he eat erstwhile he’s doing this? If you ate only an (expired) turkey sandwich because you weren’t offered thing better, unfastened your yap and fto him cognize you were truthful upset that you wrote to maine — and beryllium judge to publication nan remark conception astatine DearAbby.com because I’m judge my online readers will person a batch to opportunity astir this.

DEAR ABBY: I americium a cheery man who has been pinch my hubby for much than 30 years. He’s from a different culture, arsenic are our now-grown adopted children. Most of my family members are religiously and politically conservative. They person known I was cheery since I was successful my 20s and almost ever accepted us, but they are often captious of differences successful title and culture. I struggled pinch this business emotionally for decades and person had master counseling.

With my parents now gone, I person attempted to support a relationship and polite narration pinch my siblings and different relatives, but during these politically charged times, I americium uncovering it much and much difficult. During nan past year, I person noticed immoderate family members station anti-gay and anti-immigrant messages connected societal media. Some of them are truthful hateful and vile that I person softly unfriended aliases unfollowed them. I americium again wounded and disappointed and nearing a breaking point, and I’m not judge really to grip this further. Should I definitive my feelings now? Would a awesome confrontation service immoderate intent aliases make a quality astatine this shape of life? — BREAKING POINT IN TEXAS

DEAR BREAKING POINT: By each means, speak up and fto these homophobic and xenophobic relatives cognize their posts person affected you. They should beryllium made alert that words person consequences. Sometimes group request reminding that messages posted connected societal media tin beryllium hurtful to group they really know. Having been subjected to those posts, it’s your privilege to refrain from exposing yourself further to nan toxicity, and I endorse your decision.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.