Dear Abby: My family is not supportive of my weight-loss journey

DEAR ABBY: I americium struggling pinch a caller test of terrible liver illness (non-alcoholic) and request to suffer 30 pounds. I person had 2 bouts of crab successful 5 years arsenic good arsenic arthritis. I person dedicated myself to explicitly pursuing my doctor’s directions to eat integrated and low-fat foods and to workout regular to amended my liver. I look room successful nan adjacent fewer months. 

I unrecorded pinch family members who declare to beryllium supportive yet get angry erstwhile I move down invitations to all-you-can-eat buffets, buttered popcorn astatine movies, accelerated nutrient and pastries. One stormed disconnected erstwhile I turned down a sojourn to a deli for a immense salami sandwich! I politely said I wasn’t hungry, which was true. After this argument, I mislaid focus. I stopped weighing myself regular and began backsliding. 

I americium nary longer hopeful astir improving my health. These family members are good alert of my test because they were coming astatine nan aesculapian consultation. How tin I enactment beardown without moving out? It is my house! — SICK AND TIRED IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR SICK AND TIRED: It’s clip to reaffirm your desire to live. Because of your wellness problems, this will mean making changes that will beryllium lifelong. Ask your expert for a referral to a registered dietitian who tin guideline you successful making those adjustments, and erstwhile you person your first consultations, bring your sabotaging relatives pinch you. When they deliberately tempt you to stray from this lifesaving program, they are encouraging you to consequence your life. If they are unwilling to get connected board, past they — not you — should move out.

DEAR ABBY: Every clip my granddaughter and I talk, she ever tells maine to fto her talk. I’m getting older, and 1 time I won’t beryllium present for her to show maine to fto her talk. Believe me, I know. I’d springiness thing to talk to my Big Mama erstwhile more. I yet blew up and told her that 1 time I won’t beryllium present and to person a bully day. I haven’t spoken to her since. 

Most of nan time, I person to telephone aliases spell by to spot my great-grandsons, if I spot them astatine all. I’m tired of being nan only 1 to make an effort. I emotion her pinch each my heart, but my bosom has feelings, too. Please advise. — OVERLOOKED IN MISSISSIPPI

DEAR OVERLOOKED: I cognize you are hurting, and for that I americium sorry. But erstwhile personification says, “Let ME talk,” it usually intends that nan different talker is hogging nan conversation. I uncertainty your granddaughter said it to beryllium mean. She whitethorn beryllium busier than you are. Conversations are expected to beryllium shared, not turned into lectures. Because you person important life lessons you want to impart, see penning them successful a diary aliases signaling them.

Since you look to beryllium making each nan effort to spot your great-grandsons, possibly it’s clip to ore little connected your children’s children and put much effort into socializing pinch contemporaries. If you do, you whitethorn find it equally, if not more, rewarding.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.