Dear Abby: My high school hookup wants me to leave my husband for him — 30 years later

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 48-year-old woman. When I was 17, I hooked up pinch this feline who was portion of my friend group. I knew he had a crush connected me, truthful I decided to person activity pinch him successful his car. It meant thing to me, but everything to him. 

He has tried to scope maine complete nan years. If I was married, he was single. After my first hubby died, I did meet up pinch him briefly. I conjecture I shouldn’t person done that. I asked him if he wanted to date, but he was married. (His matrimony didn’t past long.) Then he was upset that I met a awesome man and was dating. 

That awesome man and I are now married, and my aged precocious schoolhouse hookup is pouting and upset. He’s declaring his emotion for maine and insisting that I time off my hubby for him. I’m not going to do that. Is nan truth that he is still successful emotion pinch maine aft 30 years romanticist aliases creepy? — GOT HISTORY IN TEXAS

DEAR GOT HISTORY: It appears your aged precocious schoolhouse hookup hasn’t grown emotionally since those days. What is going connected successful his caput isn’t romantic; it is disrespectful. His unwillingness aliases inability to move guardant successful his ain life is somewhat creepy. Say that erstwhile you show him to discontinue bothering you and your hubby and get connected pinch his ain life. After that, if necessary, artifact him.

DEAR ABBY: My boy and daughter-in-law had their first kid 3 months ago. This was nan first grandchild connected some sides. Her mother stayed pinch her for 2 weeks aft nan cesarean birth. I person nary issues pinch that. 

My rumor is, my boy told maine I needed to time off erstwhile they and nan babe came location from nan hospital. Mind you, I unrecorded 6 1/2 hours away. I fought him to get astatine slightest 3 days erstwhile they sewage home. Then he said I needed to leave, but he ne'er told his father-in-law to leave. Also, connected nan days I did stay, they asked maine to get a motel while her parents stayed pinch them. I only sewage to spell complete during nan day. 

When I told my boy my feelings were hurt, he said I was being a play queen. I did respect everything they asked. I conscionable want to cognize if I was incorrect for sharing my feelings aliases should I person remained quiet. It has caused clash betwixt america now. — SECOND-CLASS IN TENNESSEE

DEAR SECOND-CLASS: This business is not astir you. It is astir a brand-new babe and adjusting to parenthood. You whitethorn person travel connected excessively beardown and expected excessively overmuch erstwhile you said what you did. Your daughter-in-law was recovering from room aft her first kid and needed her mother, not her mother-in-law. Her begetter was astir apt portion of nan package deal. This isn’t a competition, and if you make it one, you will go moreover little invited than you are now.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.