Dear Abby: My husband is addicted to cannabis — and it makes me want a divorce

DEAR ABBY: My hubby is going to beryllium 70 adjacent month. He is successful bully beingness style but has taken up smoking marijuana each day. He says he is addicted. I person told him really overmuch I dislike that he uses dope. He quits for a while and past goes backmost to it. 

We person been joined almost 50 years. I would beryllium disappointed filing for divorce, but I americium starting to deliberation it’s my only measurement retired of a business that has go progressively frustrating. His expert has told him it astir apt won’t termination him. Seriously? What’s your advice, Abby? — POTHEAD’S WIFE IN ARIZONA

DEAR WIFE: Unless location are different reasons why you want retired of your marriage, possibly you should lighten up. Some group fume marijuana to relax aliases to relieve tension, slump aliases moreover boredom. Do you cognize why your hubby does it connected a regular basis, and why you are bothered to nan constituent you are considering divorce? Before talking to an attorney, you mightiness use from attending a fewer Nar-Anon meetings to summation immoderate insight. They’re arsenic adjacent arsenic your machine astatine nar-anon.org. 

DEAR ABBY: I precocious bought a caller house. I was downsizing because my mother has passed distant and my girl went retired of authorities to college. I invited my champion friend and her boy over. We person been champion friends since inferior high, and I emotion her dearly. 

I really bought my caller furnishings pinch weight considerations arsenic a facet because she and her boy measurement astir 1,000 pounds combined. As they sat down, my friend joked astir having surgery different people’s furnishings successful nan past. Then location was an audible “crack” arsenic they sat down connected my couch. She conscionable looked astatine maine and made nary comment. 

Abby, I cognize relationship is much valuable than a couch, but she wants to bring much of her family complete to visit. I simply can’t spend to bargain a $900 sofa each fewer months. Can you please help? — HESITANT HOSTESS

DEAR HOSTESS: Your friend should person offered to salary to person your caller sofa repaired aliases replaced. That she heard nan wood ace nether nan load of their weight and said thing speaks volumes to me. In nan future, sojourn her astatine her home, but refrain from inviting her to sojourn aliases bring relatives to your location again.

DEAR ABBY: My hubby and I person neighbors we are not willing successful being friends with. We are a belief family and judge successful God. They person a achromatic ram’s caput hanging successful their surviving room, if you drawback my drift. They support inviting america to events astatine their location aliases to walk clip pinch them, and we don’t cognize really to politely diminution without making anyone angry. How do we support our distance? — STAYING AWAY IN NEW YORK

DEAR STAYING AWAY: Have you and your hubby been accepting their invitations? If that’s nan case, commencement backing distant by having “other plans.” However, if they don’t return nan hint, statesman sending them belief tracts from your denomination, and they whitethorn vanish successful a puff of sulfur.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.