Dear Abby: Should you tolerate your partner flirting with a stranger?

DEAR ABBY: I person publication letters successful your file from women whose boyfriends aliases husbands flirt pinch different women successful their beingness complaining astir emotion wounded and embarrassment. I was joined for 25 years to a man who flirted pinch different women while we were making love and besides aft we were married. I told him galore times that it wounded my feelings and made maine consciousness inadequate. His consequence was I was “too sensitive” and that I should get complete it.

Fast-forward 20 years: I sewage complete it! Then I walked retired and revenge for divorce. My grown girl told maine he cried for illustration a babe erstwhile he realized I was gone. I person now been joined for galore years to a man who loves maine profoundly and makes maine consciousness I americium nan astir important personification successful his life. My proposal to those women is: Pack up, tally arsenic accelerated arsenic you tin and don’t look back. — FOUND MY SELF-ESTEEM

DEAR FOUND: Some group request changeless reassurance that they are attractive, which is why they consciousness compelled to flirt. Their insecurity is simply a bottomless pit. This is destructive erstwhile it affects partners and spouses. I’m gladsome you yet realized that nan problem wasn’t you and recovered nan spot to leave. You merit your happy ending, and I cognize you make your existent hubby arsenic happy arsenic he makes you.

DEAR ABBY: As a babe boomer and an amateur genealogist, I americium continually disappointment by nan deficiency of liking my grandchildren’s procreation seems to person successful learning astir their family history — peculiarly mine. Rather than inquire astir what life was for illustration erstwhile I grew up successful nan 1950s and ’60s, they look fixated connected their ain lives and show small liking successful anyone aliases thing else.

When I was their age, I was mesmerized by stories my grandparents shared pinch maine astir their lives astatine nan move of nan 20th century. I’m profoundly concerned that my grandkids will ne'er beryllium capable to walk down these stories that I’d emotion to stock pinch them — stories that clasp awesome meaning astir nan lives of their predecessors. Do you person immoderate suggestions astir really I tin promote their liking successful this important area? — HISTORIAN IN TEXAS

DEAR HISTORIAN: You astir apt can’t do that unless they aftermath up erstwhile they are older and commencement asking you to grounds oral family histories. However, because you would for illustration these stories passed down, commencement penning them successful diaries and journals to beryllium publication astatine a later date, possibly aft you are gone. If your family isn’t willing successful them, section aliases authorities humanities societies whitethorn beryllium very willing successful having them, on pinch immoderate photographs you mightiness beryllium consenting to share.

DEAR ABBY: I get really irritated pinch “friends” who telephone maine only connected their speakerphones erstwhile driving, aliases while shopping aliases moving errands successful stores. I don’t do this to them. It makes maine consciousness for illustration an afterthought. What should I show them? — UNCALLED FOR IN COLORADO

DEAR UNCALLED FOR: Try this: Tell them to telephone you erstwhile they get location and are not distracted.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.