Dear Abby: I’m in love with the much younger man I dog sit for

DEAR ABBY: A man I cognize has been joined for 40 years. His woman gets huffy astatine him for mini things and stops talking to him for 3 to 4 months astatine a time. Also, he will make her supper, and she’ll make thing else. Or she will make supper and quickly put it successful nan refrigerator. They time off very little notes astir wherever they are going. During agelong rides, nary words are spoken. If institution aliases their kids aliases grandchildren come, she puts plates of nutrient retired for everyone but him.

Then, nan move flips and it’s a awesome normal matrimony again — pinch activity and everything other for 3 aliases 4 months. Then it happens again. This has been going connected for astir of their marriage. But it utilized to beryllium shorter periods of clip — 2 aliases 3 weeks — which I deliberation is besides excessively agelong to not speak. They person grown kids who travel location and haven’t noticed astir of it. 

When this man confronts his woman during these stretches, she refuses to talk astir it. I judge she must beryllium bipolar. A nephew of hers has been diagnosed pinch it and is being treated. Her hubby is fresh to divorcement her moreover though he still loves her. He’s not judge what to do. Please advise. — LOOKING ON IN MINNESOTA

DEAR LOOKING ON: It is difficult for maine to understand why a hubby would tolerate nan affectional maltreatment this man has suffered for 40 years. Please show your friend that my proposal is to consult an attorney, picture what has been happening and inquire what his alternatives to nan position quo whitethorn be. Then he should show his children nan truth astir his matrimony and pass his woman that he will nary longer tolerate nan measurement he has been treated. He should besides show his woman that unless she gets master thief for her problem, he’s leaving.

DEAR ABBY: I americium a canine sitter successful my 70s who has been taking attraction of a canine for nan past 5 years. Her proprietor is simply a bully young man who is good mannered and polite. We person had a bully relationship.

A fewer months ago, he started seeing a beautiful young woman, and I americium emotion suspicious and sad. I recognize I could beryllium his grandma and location ne'er could beryllium thing betwixt us. Perhaps I consciousness this measurement because I’m unsocial and missing nan narration I had pinch my husband, who passed distant 12 years ago. How tin I get complete this feeling? — LONELY PET SITTER

DEAR SITTER: I’m gladsome you wrote. A dose of quality companionship would beryllium a start. If you are caring for a dog, you must beryllium stepping it regularly and, by kindness of that, gathering people. Step it up a bit. See what different activities are disposable for seniors successful your organization and subordinate immoderate of them. Whether you autumn successful emotion again aliases not, you are judge to meet caller group and person little clip alone. Please deliberation positively and springiness it a try.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, besides known arsenic Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby astatine http://www.DearAbby.com aliases P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.